Betrayal Recovery · Worksheet Two
Betrayal Recovery Progress Check-In
A check-in to use alongside Worksheet One — to see what has shifted, what is healing, and what still needs attention in your recovery.
How to use this check-in. Complete this alongside Worksheet One — your starting inventory. The before/now scales in Section One directly mirror those from the first worksheet, so you can see what has actually moved. There are no right amounts of progress, and this is not a test. Noticing where you are honestly is what makes the work useful.
Section One
Then and now — the same measures
These are the same scales from Worksheet One. Set "Then" to where you were when you started, and "Now" to where you are today. The gap — or the lack of one — is information worth sitting with.
Section Two
What has shifted
Change in this kind of work is often quiet and nonlinear. It shows up in unexpected places — small moments, different reactions, things that no longer take the same energy they did. This section asks you to notice it.
Name even the quiet shifts:
"Something that is genuinely different now compared to when I started is _____________"
Understanding and healing aren't the same, but understanding often precedes it:
"Something I understand now that I couldn't see at the beginning is _____________"
Insights from the work — select any that resonate
Section Three
What is still in process
Some areas of healing take longer than others, and that is normal. Naming what is still in process — without judgment — helps focus the work on where it is most needed.
Naming it clearly:
"Something that is still in an earlier stage of healing for me is _____________ — and I think it needs more time or attention around _____________"
Section Four
The relationship — where it stands now
A check-in on where the relationship itself is, independent of your internal progress. These can be very different things.
Trust often shifts in unexpected ways:
"What trust looks like between us now is _____________ — compared to where it was when I first came in, when _____________"
Section Five
What would make the work even more useful
This section helps shape where the work goes next. Naming what has been most meaningful and what you'd like to explore differently helps the process keep moving in the right direction.
What has been most helpful
What I'd like to explore differently
What I need more of
Something I haven't said yet
Section Six
Yourself — now
Who you are at this point in the work, compared to who walked in at the beginning. The work changes the person doing it — sometimes in ways that have nothing to do with the relationship itself.
The person doing the work also changes:
"Something about who I am that feels different now is _____________"
What does your own inner life need from you?
"What I most need to offer myself right now is _____________"
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