Repeating Patterns Map - Relational Templates

Repeating Patterns Map

Recognizing unconscious relational templates that shape our interactions

Mapping Your Patterns

We all have unconscious patterns in how we relate to others. These templates often develop early in life and repeat across different relationships and situations.

  • Think about situations that frustrate you repeatedly in relationships or work
  • Consider what role you tend to play in these situations
  • Reflect on where these patterns might have originated
  • Look for connections between past and present dynamics

Common Relational Roles

The Rescuer/Helper
The Peacemaker
The Perfectionist
The People Pleaser
The Rebel/Challenger
The Caretaker
The Victim
The Controller
The Withdrawer
The Critic
The Mediator
The Overachiever

1 Recurring Pattern #1

Describe the recurring situation

What role do you tend to take?

Where might this pattern have started?

What purpose might this pattern have served originally?

2 Recurring Pattern #2

Describe the recurring situation

What role do you tend to take?

Where might this pattern have started?

What purpose might this pattern have served originally?

3 Recurring Pattern #3

Describe the recurring situation

What role do you tend to take?

Where might this pattern have started?

What purpose might this pattern have served originally?

Pattern Connections

Insights and Next Steps

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