Am I Dating a Narcissist? | Take This Quick Relationship Quiz

When you hear the word “narcissist,” you might think of someone obsessed with their looks or bragging nonstop. But true narcissism runs deeper it’s about a pattern of manipulation. A lack of empathy, and a drive to stay in control no matter who gets hurt. If you’re constantly left second-guessing yourself, apologizing for things that aren’t your fault, or trying to manage their moods, it’s worth pausing and asking: could narcissistic traits be at play here?

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Why Take “Am I Dating a Narcissist Quiz”

it can help you spot patterns that feel off. Gaslighting, shifting blame, turning every conversation back on you…those are serious red flags. By walking through these questions, you’ll get a fresh perspective and maybe even see behaviors you’ve been brushing aside.

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If you’re here, chances are you already have some doubts about your relationship and that’s brave. This quick quiz is designed to help you get clearer about what’s happening and give you language for what you’re feeling. Whether you leave with answers or just a stronger sense of your instincts.

Am I Dating a Narcissist?

Understanding the signs of narcissistic behavior in relationships can help you make informed decisions about your emotional well-being and future.

⚠️ Important Disclaimer

This quiz is for educational and self-reflection purposes only. It is not a diagnostic tool and should not be used to diagnose narcissistic personality disorder or any other mental health condition.

Only qualified mental health professionals can provide proper diagnosis and treatment. If you're experiencing emotional abuse, manipulation, or other concerning behaviors in your relationship, please consider speaking with a licensed therapist or counselor.

Your safety and well-being are paramount. If you're in immediate danger, please contact emergency services or a domestic violence hotline.

Emergency Resources:
• Emergency Services: 911
• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (24/7, free, confidential)
• Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741

1. Does your partner frequently talk about themselves and their achievements?

Always - They dominate conversations with stories about themselves Often - They frequently steer conversations back to themselves Sometimes - They occasionally talk about their accomplishments Rarely - They show balanced interest in both our lives

2. How does your partner react when you achieve something significant?

They minimize it or make it about themselves They seem uncomfortable or change the subject They congratulate me but don't seem genuinely excited They celebrate and support my achievements enthusiastically

3. Does your partner expect special treatment or privileges?

Always - They believe they deserve preferential treatment Often - They frequently expect to be treated as special Sometimes - They occasionally act entitled Rarely - They treat others with respect and equality

4. How does your partner handle criticism or feedback?

They become angry, defensive, or blame others They dismiss it or make excuses They acknowledge it but don't seem to learn from it They listen and try to improve

5. Does your partner show genuine empathy for your feelings?

Never - They seem unable to understand my emotions Rarely - They acknowledge my feelings but don't seem to care Sometimes - They show empathy when it's convenient Always - They consistently show genuine care for my emotions

6. How does your partner treat service workers or people they consider "beneath" them?

Rudely or dismissively - They act superior Indifferently - They ignore or barely acknowledge them Politely but without warmth With respect and kindness

7. Does your partner take responsibility for their mistakes?

Never - They always blame others or circumstances Rarely - They might admit small mistakes but not big ones Sometimes - They take responsibility when pressured Always - They own their mistakes and try to make amends

8. How does your partner react when you set boundaries?

They ignore, challenge, or become angry about boundaries They reluctantly accept them but seem resentful They accept them but sometimes test or push them They respect and support my boundaries

9. Does your partner seem to have a grandiose sense of self-importance?

Yes - They constantly talk about being special or unique Often - They frequently mention their superiority Sometimes - They occasionally act like they're better than others No - They have a realistic view of themselves

10. How does your partner handle your friendships and family relationships?

They actively try to isolate me or criticize my relationships They seem jealous or make negative comments about my loved ones They tolerate them but don't seem genuinely interested They encourage and support my relationships

11. Does your partner manipulate situations to get their way?

Always - They use guilt, lies, or emotional manipulation Often - They frequently manipulate to get what they want Sometimes - They occasionally use manipulation tactics Never - They communicate honestly and directly

12. How does your partner react when they don't get their way?

They have tantrums, become aggressive, or give silent treatment They become moody, sulky, or passive-aggressive They express disappointment but eventually move on They handle disappointment maturely and respectfully

13. Does your partner seem to lack genuine remorse when they hurt you?

Always - They never seem truly sorry for their actions Often - Their apologies feel hollow or insincere Sometimes - They apologize but the behavior continues Never - They show genuine remorse and change their behavior

14. How does your partner handle your personal achievements and goals?

They sabotage or undermine my efforts They seem indifferent or focus on their own goals instead They provide minimal support when asked They actively support and encourage my goals

15. Does your partner expect you to meet their needs while ignoring yours?

Always - The relationship revolves around their needs Often - They prioritize their needs over mine Sometimes - They focus on their needs but acknowledge mine Never - We have a balanced give-and-take relationship

16. How does your partner handle conflicts or disagreements?

They attack, blame, or refuse to engage constructively They become defensive and make it about their feelings They participate but struggle to see my perspective They engage respectfully and work toward resolution

17. Does your partner seem to believe they are always right?

Always - They never admit they could be wrong Often - They rarely consider they might be mistaken Sometimes - They occasionally admit small mistakes Never - They can acknowledge when they're wrong

18. How does your partner react to your emotions or vulnerabilities?

They dismiss, minimize, or use them against me They seem uncomfortable and try to change the subject They acknowledge them but don't offer much support They respond with compassion and support

19. Does your partner seem to have unrealistic expectations of your relationship?

Always - They expect perfection and constant attention Often - They have demanding, unrealistic expectations Sometimes - They have high expectations but are flexible Never - They have realistic relationship expectations

20. How do you feel about yourself when you're with your partner?

I often feel inadequate, confused, or walking on eggshells I sometimes doubt myself or feel emotionally drained I feel okay but not particularly valued or appreciated I feel loved, valued, and confident in myself

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