Spouse or Roommate? Take This Quiz to Find Out
Are You Living as Partners or Just Sharing a Space?
In couples counseling, many couples ask if they are more like roommates or lovers. It’s a common question, and this quiz can help you find out if you might be.
Emotional connection and shared purpose create a strong foundation for a healthy marriage or partnership. But over time, many couples feel more like roommates, doing daily chores (no one likes the dishes), paying bills, and living side by side but lacking emotional closeness and the sexiness that comes with the beginning of early relationships (the honeymoon phase). If you've wondered whether you and your partner are thriving as a couple or simply living as roommates, this quiz can help you understand where you stand.
Spouse or Roommate?
Discover the depth of intimacy and connection in your relationship
⚠️ Important Disclaimer
This quiz is for educational and self-reflection purposes only and is not a diagnostic tool. It cannot replace professional mental health assessment or treatment. If you're experiencing relationship difficulties or emotional distress, please consult with a qualified mental health professional.
Crisis Resources:
• National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988
• Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741
• National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
Your Result
Strengthening Your Relationship Connection
Individual Therapy
- Explore your relationship patterns and needs
- Work on personal communication skills
- Address individual barriers to intimacy
- Build self-awareness and emotional intelligence
- Develop tools for personal growth and healing
Couples Therapy
- Improve communication and emotional connection
- Rebuild intimacy and romantic partnership
- Learn to resolve conflicts constructively
- Create shared goals and vision for your relationship
- Strengthen your bond as lovers, not just roommates
Ready to Reconnect With Your Partner?
Our experienced therapists can help you rebuild intimacy, improve communication, and transform your relationship from roommates back to lovers.
Schedule Your ConsultationHow to Reignite the Connection
If your results indicate more of a roommate dynamic, don’t worry. It happens in a lot of partnerships. Many couples experience this shift, but small changes can bring back emotional closeness. Here are a few steps you can take:
Prioritize meaningful time together—schedule date nights or weekend activities.
Start daily check-ins—ask each other about feelings, not just tasks.
Express affection regularly—even small moments of physical touch matter.
Revisit what brought you together—discuss memories, dreams, and future goals.
When to Seek Couples Therapy
If the distance feels overwhelming, therapy can help. As a Texas-based couples therapist, I work with partners to rebuild intimacy, communication, and connection. You can live anywhere in the state of Texas to start counseling online. Reach out today to schedule an appointment or if you have questions about how therapy works.
If this quiz resonated with you, let’s talk. Book an online therapy session today.
