Couples Tool
Conflict Style Assessment
Each partner answers 10 questions to identify how they handle conflict — then see how your specific pairing works, where it breaks down, and what actually helps.
Partner A
How do you handle conflict?
Answer honestly based on how you actually behave — not how you wish you behaved or think you should.
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Partner B
How do you handle conflict?
Answer independently — don't compare with your partner until both of you are done.
0 of 10 answered
How this pairing tends to play out
What conflict looks like between you
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Where things tend to break down
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What each person needs during conflict
What actually helps
Practices that make a difference for this pairing
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Reflection
What you recognize and what you want to change
Both partners
Take turns:
"The pattern I recognize most clearly in how we handle conflict is _____________ — and my contribution to it is _____________"
Partner A
Partner B
Together
Specific and small:
"The next time we're in conflict, what I will try differently is _____________"
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