Post-Affair Sexual Intimacy & Physical Reconnection Worksheet
A guided worksheet for rebuilding physical and emotional intimacy after infidelity
Important: This worksheet is designed to be completed together or individually, ideally with professional guidance. Take your time and be honest about your feelings and experiences.
Current Relationship Status
Date started using this worksheet:
How long has it been since the affair was disclosed?
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Are you currently in couples therapy?
Physical Intimacy Assessment
Rate your current comfort level with physical touch (non-sexual):
Very Uncomfortable
Neutral
Very Comfortable
Which types of physical touch feel safe right now? (Check all that apply)
Sexual Intimacy Readiness
Rate your current desire for sexual intimacy with your partner:
No Desire
Neutral
Strong Desire
What concerns do you have about resuming sexual intimacy? (Be specific)
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What would need to happen for you to feel more comfortable with sexual intimacy?
Click to write what you need...
Trust and Safety
Rate your current level of trust in your partner:
No Trust
Building Trust
Strong Trust
What specific actions has your partner taken to rebuild trust?
List actions taken...
What additional actions would help rebuild trust?
List what's needed...
Communication and Boundaries
What boundaries do you need around physical intimacy right now?
Describe your current boundaries...
How comfortable are you discussing your sexual needs and concerns with your partner?
Very Uncomfortable
Somewhat Comfortable
Very Comfortable
What would make intimate conversations feel safer for you?
Describe what would help...
Reconnection Goals
What does healthy physical intimacy look like to you in this relationship?
Describe your vision...
What small steps could you take this week to move toward greater physical connection?
List 2-3 small, achievable steps...
What support do you need to feel confident in rebuilding intimacy?
Progress Tracking
Weekly Check-ins
Week 1 Date:
This week's progress and challenges:
Reflect on the week...
Week 2 Date:
This week's progress and challenges:
Reflect on the week...
Week 3 Date:
This week's progress and challenges:
Reflect on the week...
Remember: Healing from infidelity takes time. Be patient with yourself and your partner. Consider printing this worksheet or saving your responses. Professional guidance can be invaluable during this process.