ADHD & Autism-Informed Couples Therapy
Couples Therapy for Analytical & Neurodivergent Partnerships
Solutions-Focused Repair for ADHD, Autism & Neurodiverse Couples
Most couples therapy is designed for neurotypical, emotionally-expressive people. If you're analytical, neurodivergent, or solution-oriented, traditional therapy can feel inefficient, vague, and frustrating.
This is structured relationship repair with clear frameworks, measurable progress, and practical systems.
What Brought You Here
You don't need more validation. You need systems that work.
Common patterns that brought you here:
→ The executive function crisis. One partner manages everything—scheduling, household tasks, finances, social obligations. The other partner tries but can't sustain follow-through. You've built a parent-child dynamic neither of you wants. The non-ADHD partner is exhausted and resentful. The ADHD partner feels constantly criticized and incapable.
→ Communication operates on different operating systems. One partner communicates in literal, direct language. The other expects subtext and implication. "I need you to do the dishes" vs. "You should just know I need help." Neither is wrong. You're running incompatible software.
→ Emotional regulation breakdowns. ADHD emotional flooding—calm to crisis in 30 seconds. Rejection sensitivity dysphoria turning neutral feedback into personal attack. Autistic shutdown during conflict. One partner escalates; the other goes offline. No productive resolution occurs.
→ The pursuit-withdraw pattern. One partner initiates conversation, seeks connection, asks questions. The other withdraws, shuts down, needs space. Both feel misunderstood. The cycle intensifies over time.
→ Late diacovery changed the equation. Finding out about ADHD or autism years into the relationship reframes everything. The neurotypical partner experiences relief ("I'm not imagining this"), grief ("we lost years"), and sometimes anger ("you could have told me sooner"). The neurodivergent partner is processing identity, shame, and what changes now.
→ Intimacy has collapsed. Sex feels like another task on an overwhelming to-do list. Sensory sensitivities, executive dysfunction, or years of disconnection have shut down physical intimacy. You're functional roommates, not partners.
→ Trust was violated. Impulsivity led to poor decisions. Emotional dysregulation drove secretive behaviors. Hyperfocus on someone new while the primary relationship deteriorated. Online relationships crossed boundaries. ADHD/autism doesn't excuse what happened—but traditional infidelity therapy doesn't account for how neurodivergence factors in.
Therapy For:
Engineers, programmers, scientists, researchers
Tech professionals and startup founders
Late-diagnosed ADHD/autistic adults
Couples with executive dysfunction challenges
Analytical thinkers frustrated by traditional therapy approaches
Couples where both partners are neurodivergent
Partnerships managing complex infidelity with neurodivergent factors