Attachment-Based Betrayal Recovery

Structured, compassionate treatment for couples navigating infidelity, broken trust, and relationship repair.

What This Approach Helps With

Infidelity creates a level of pain, confusion, and disorientation that most couples aren’t prepared for.
This approach supports couples dealing with:

• Physical or emotional affairs

• Emotional infidelity or connections that crossed boundaries

• Porn use that violated the agreement between partners

• Online affairs, sexting, or dating app activity

• Betrayal trauma

• Navigating ambivalence about staying or leaving

• Rebuilding trust after attachment security has been disrupted

If you’re stuck in crisis mode, repeated interrogations, intense arguments, distance, or emotional numbness, this model offers structure when everything feels overwhelming or chaotic.

What Makes This Approach Different

Infidelity requires a different structure than general couples counseling because betrayal affects the nervous system, attachment patterns, and emotional safety.

Structured repair helps because it offers:

✓ A predictable roadmap during a time when nothing feels stable
✓ Trauma-informed support for the injured partner
✓ A path for the betraying partner to show accountability without shutting down
✓ A way to understand the betrayal’s roots without minimizing the harm
✓ An honest assessment of whether the relationship can genuinely heal

Attachment-based betrayal work centers the emotional reality of both partners, without forcing quick forgiveness or minimizing the severity of what happened.

What to Expect

Initial Consultation (Complimentary)

Before accepting new couples for betrayal recovery work, I conduct a brief consultation to assess whether your situation aligns with this structured approach and whether both partners are ready for this level of work.

Intake Session (If You Choose to Move Forward)

Your first full 50-min session, where we begin grounding the process:

• Understanding the nature of the betrayal

• Exploring emotional responses and attachment injuries

• Identifying immediate stabilization needs

• Setting expectations and outlining the treatment structure

• Creating a sense of safety for both partners

This session sets the tone for the work ahead and helps us begin phase 1 of stabilization.

Ongoing Counseling

Infidelity repair requires deeper, more structured work than standard couples therapy. Most couples benefit from 20–30 sessions, depending on:

• The type and duration of betrayal

• Trauma responses and emotional overwhelm

• Readiness for accountability and transparency

• Whether safety can be re-established

• How much processing and rebuilding is needed

We go at a steady, grounding pace, never rushed, never pushed.

Session Options

• 50-minute sessions
  Ideal for ongoing weekly work, stabilization, and maintenance.

• 90-minute extended sessions
  Helpful for deeper processing, emotional regulation, or when sessions need more space.

• 3-hour intensive
  Recommended early in treatment or during major breakthroughs for focused, structured repair.

Together, we’ll choose the format that feels sustainable and supportive for your relationship.

This approach is a good fit if:

✓ Both partners are willing to participate in the repair process (even if one person is still hurting)
✓ The betraying partner is able to show remorse and transparency
✓ You’re ready to explore the layers beneath the betrayal, not just “move on”
✓ You’re willing to engage in long-term work rather than quick fixes
✓ You want clarity, structure, and a path forward—whether you stay together or not

This approach may not be a good match if:

✗ There is ongoing deception or continued contact with an affair partner
✗ You’re wanting therapy to “convince” your partner or force accountability
✗ You’re expecting rapid forgiveness or instant stabilization
✗ Either partner is unwilling to look beneath the surface-level behaviors
✗ You are seeking short-term crisis counseling rather than structured repair

Schedule Complimentary Consultation