Sex Therapy Meets Attachment Work

Counseling for desire differences, intimacy disconnection, and relationship patterns that make sexual closeness feel difficult or overwhelming.

What This Approach Helps With

Sexual disconnection can feel confusing, painful, and lonely, especially when you’ve already tried the typical advice with no meaningful change.
This approach supports couples navigating:

• Desire discrepancy

• Porn use/internet addiction affecting intimacy or connection

• Shame around sex

• When sex becomes a place of conflict instead of bonding

• Intimacy challenges in neurodiverse relationships (sensory needs, overwhelm, executive function, etc.)

How We Work

Sexual disconnection is rarely just about sex. It’s about safety, shame, attachment, trauma responses, and the nervous system.

Sex Therapy

Addresses the practical, physical, and psychological aspects of arousal, desire, pleasure, and functioning.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

Helps identify attachment patterns and emotional blocks that shape sexual connection.

Together, this work explores:

• Why desire fades (it’s often not about attractiveness)

• How nervous systems regulate or shut down during intimacy

• The impact of shame, criticism, or past experiences on sexual expression

• Pursuit–withdraw patterns specifically around sex

• How sensory needs, overwhelm, or executive function challenges affect intimacy (especially for ND couples)

What to Expect

Initial Consultation (Complimentary)

A brief 15-min conversation to understand what’s bringing you in and whether this approach feels like the right fit.

Intake Session

Your first full session, where we begin exploring:

• Your intimacy patterns and relationship dynamic

• Desire levels, arousal concerns, and emotional blocks

• Shame, body image, and relational patterns

• How withdrawal, avoidance, or performance anxiety shows up

• How neurodivergence or sensory needs may influence intimacy

This gives us a clear starting point and helps us outline a plan that feels achievable and supportive.

Ongoing Counseling

Intimacy and desire work often requires deeper exploration and consistent practice outside of sessions.

Most couples benefit from 15–25 sessions, depending on:

• Severity or duration of disconnection

• Attachment dynamics and emotional safety

• Shame patterns and past experiences

• Whether neurodivergence or trauma responses play a role

• How quickly each partner can regulate during intimacy discussions

Some couples see meaningful shifts in 3–4 months. Others prefer 6–9 months of steady work.

Session Options

• 50-minute sessions
  Ideal for weekly or bi-weekly ongoing work.

• 90-minute extended sessions
  Very helpful for intimacy work, which often requires more space to regulate and explore.

• 3-hour intensives
  Focused work on specific blocks, shame patterns, or desire concerns.

Is This Approach Right for You?

This approach is a good fit if:

✓ You’re willing to talk openly and explicitly about sex (at a pace that feels safe)
✓ Both partners want to understand the disconnection, even if desire levels differ
✓ You’re ready to explore emotional blocks
✓ You’re open to discussing shame, body image, nervous system responses, and vulnerability
✓ You’re willing to practice small changes between sessions
✓ You want a respectful, clinical, non-judgmental space to explore intimacy

This approach may not be the right fit if:

✗ You’re hoping for surface-level tools rather than the deeper emotional work intimacy usually requires.
✗ One partner isn’t yet ready for self-reflection or shared responsibility in the relationship.
✗ You want rapid change and aren’t in a place to explore the underlying factors that shape desire.

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