Am I Selfish Quiz
Am I Selfish?
A thoughtful self-assessment of empathy, generosity, and balanced self-care
🧡 Important Ethical and Personal Growth Disclaimer
This quiz is for self-reflection purposes only and should not replace professional counseling or personal judgment about moral character.
Selfishness exists on a spectrum, and healthy self-care is often mislabeled as selfish. True selfishness involves consistently prioritizing your own needs without regard for others' wellbeing, while healthy self-care means maintaining your own needs so you can better care for others.
Remember: Taking care of yourself is not selfish - it's necessary for your mental health and ability to maintain healthy relationships. Many people, especially those with people-pleasing tendencies, may worry about being selfish when they're actually being appropriately self-protective.
Emergency Resources:
• If you are experiencing a mental health crisis or having thoughts of self-harm, please call 911 immediately.
• For mental health crisis support, call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (available 24/7).
• For domestic violence support, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
Only qualified mental health professionals can provide comprehensive assessment of personality patterns and relationship dynamics. If you have concerns about your behavior patterns or relationships, consider consulting with a licensed therapist.
🧡 Finding the Balance: Self-Care vs. Selfishness
Healthy self-care is NOT selfish - it's essential for wellbeing and relationships:
• Healthy boundaries: Saying no to protect your energy and mental health
• Self-advocacy: Speaking up for your needs and values respectfully
• Personal time: Taking time alone to recharge and pursue your interests
• Emotional regulation: Managing your feelings before supporting others
• Growth focus: Investing in your development and goals
True selfishness involves: Consistently disregarding others' needs, lacking empathy, exploiting relationships for personal gain, or refusing to compromise or consider others' perspectives.
Signs of healthy balance: You care for yourself AND others, you can compromise when appropriate, you feel empathy for others' situations, and you contribute to relationships and community when possible.
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Whether you're working on finding balance between self-care and caring for others, or addressing concerns about relationship patterns, professional guidance can help you develop healthy boundaries and authentic connections.
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