Are You Monogamish? Quiz
Relationships don’t always fit neatly into boxes. Some couples thrive in traditional monogamy, while others find joy in exploring flexibility, openness, or a middle ground—what’s often called monogamish.
But what does monogamish even mean? And more importantly, how do you know if it could work for you and your partner? That’s exactly what our quiz is here to help you explore.
What Does “Monogamish” Mean?
The term “monogamish,” popularized by writer and podcaster Dan Savage, describes relationships that are mostly monogamous but allow for some flexibility. This might look like a couple who is committed to one another emotionally and romantically, while making space for certain agreed-upon outside connections—whether that’s flirting, the occasional physical encounter, or shared experiences as a couple.
The key is that monogamish couples set boundaries that work for them. It’s less about fitting into a rigid definition and more about creating an arrangement that feels safe, respectful, and fulfilling for both partners.
Why Take the Quiz?
This quiz isn’t about labeling you or telling you how your relationship “should” look. Instead, it’s a playful way to reflect on:
Your comfort with exclusivity vs. openness
How you feel about trust, communication, and boundaries
Whether you and your partner might thrive with a little more flexibility—or if monogamy feels like your best fit
It can also spark meaningful conversations between partners about values, needs, and expectations.
The Importance of Communication
No matter your results, the foundation of any healthy relationship is communication. If the word “monogamish” sparks curiosity, it’s worth sitting down with your partner to talk about what you each want from your relationship.
Ask questions like:
What does commitment mean to you?
How do you define fidelity?
Are there boundaries that feel essential for you to feel safe and respected?
These conversations can be vulnerable—but they’re also where real intimacy and connection grow.
When to Seek Support
Sometimes, conversations about monogamy, openness, or boundaries can bring up old wounds, fears, or insecurities. If that happens, working with a couples therapist can help you create a safe space to explore these topics without judgment. At Sagebrush Counseling, I specialize in helping couples navigate questions of trust, intimacy, and the many ways modern relationships can look.
Learn More About Relationship Styles
If you’d like to read more about how different couples define their relationships, the American Psychological Association has an overview of consensual non-monogamy that provides a thoughtful, research-based perspective.
Are You Monogamish?
Considering Monogamish? Get Professional Guidance
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