Repair Attempt Suggestion Tool

What Are Repair Attempts?

Actions or words that prevent conflict from escalating
Ways to reconnect and restore emotional safety
Signals that the relationship is more important than being "right"
Tools to break negative interaction cycles
Bridges back to love and understanding after disconnection
Research shows successful repair attempts predict relationship success

Repair Attempts in Action

Effective Repair Attempts

"I'm sorry, I'm getting too heated. Can we take a break?" or "I love you and don't want to fight about this" or "This is important to both of us, let's slow down."

Avoid These

"You're being ridiculous, let's just drop it" or "Whatever, I don't care anymore" or "This is stupid, you're overreacting."

What's Your Situation?

Heated Argument

Things are escalating and getting intense

Someone Got Hurt

Feelings were hurt during the conflict

Someone Withdrew

One partner shut down or walked away

Feeling Misunderstood

Communication broke down, not feeling heard

Ongoing Tension

Unresolved issue creating distance

After a Big Fight

Major conflict happened, need to reconnect

When do you want to repair?

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Tips for Successful Repair Attempts

Timing Matters

Try early before things escalate
Watch for your partner's readiness
Sometimes a break is needed first
Don't force it if emotions are too high

Tone and Body Language

Use a soft, gentle tone
Make eye contact if possible
Open body posture
Show you care through your demeanor

Be Genuine

Mean what you say
Don't use repair as manipulation
Focus on connection, not winning
Show vulnerability when appropriate

What NOT to Do

Don't use sarcasm or eye-rolling
Avoid "but" after an apology
Don't dismiss their feelings
Don't rush the repair process