Neurodiverse Couples Counseling
Therapy that honors how you're wired and helps you build connection without masking or changing who you are
When one or both partners are neurodivergent—whether ADHD, autistic, or processing the world differently—traditional relationship advice often misses the mark. The disconnect isn't about not loving each other enough. It's about two nervous systems trying to sync up when they're operating on different frequencies.
Maybe one of you needs to think before talking, while the other needs to talk to think. Maybe what feels like emotional distance to one person is actually sensory regulation for the other. Maybe you're exhausted from shouldering all the executive functioning tasks, or tired of being told you're "too much" or "not enough."
You're not broken. Your relationship isn't broken. You just need tools and support that actually fit how your brains work.
What Neurodiverse Couples Often Navigate
These patterns show up in so many neurodiverse relationships, and recognizing them is the first step toward understanding each other better:
- Emotional processing gaps—one person needs to think before talking, the other needs to talk to think
- Different needs around physical closeness or space, where one craves connection and the other needs solitude to recharge
- One partner shouldering the executive functioning load—managing schedules, bills, appointments, and household tasks
- Misinterpretations due to literal versus nuanced communication styles
- Social fatigue mismatches—one partner is ready to socialize while the other is completely depleted
- Sensory differences that create tension around noise, light, touch, or other environmental factors
- Time blindness or difficulty with transitions causing frustration for both partners
- Different emotional expression styles that can be misread as disinterest or overwhelm
The truth is, most couples counseling isn't built for this. Traditional therapy often tries to apply neurotypical relationship frameworks to neurodiverse dynamics, leaving both partners feeling misunderstood and stuck in the same patterns.
Therapy That Actually Gets It
Therapy designed for neurodiverse couples can help you break the cycle of "why don't you just get it?" and start building connection that honors how you're both wired.
You'll learn how to reconnect without masking or walking on eggshells. You'll get clear about how you want to love and be loved—and how to communicate that in ways your partner can actually hear and understand.
How Therapy Can Help
Neurodiverse couples counseling isn't about trying to change who you are. It's about building bridges between your different ways of experiencing the world.
Understanding Your Patterns
We'll identify the cycles you're stuck in and understand what's really happening beneath the surface—not just what it looks like on the outside.
Communication That Works
Learn to express needs, set boundaries, and resolve conflicts in ways that honor both neurotypes without requiring masking or pretending.
Balancing Different Needs
Find practical strategies for managing differing sensory needs, emotional processing styles, and energy levels without one person always sacrificing.
Rebuilding Connection
Reconnect emotionally and physically in ways that feel safe and authentic for both of you, not based on neurotypical relationship ideals.
Who This Is For
At Sagebrush Counseling, I work with couples who are:
- Navigating ADHD, autism, or sensory processing differences in their relationship
- Wondering why their love feels like hard work lately
- Tired of trying to change each other just to get through the day
- Feeling misunderstood by traditional couples therapy approaches
- Dealing with the exhaustion of one partner masking or both partners walking on eggshells
- Struggling with resentment around executive functioning or household management
- Wanting to understand how neurodivergence impacts their relationship dynamics
- Ready to build a relationship that honors both partners' authentic selves
You deserve tools that honor your differences and bring you closer, not advice that makes you feel like there's something wrong with either of you.
My Approach to Neurodiverse Couples
I specialize in working with neurodiverse couples because I've seen how often neurodivergent experiences are misunderstood, pathologized, or dismissed. My approach is rooted in understanding that neurological differences aren't deficits—they're different ways of being in the world that require different strategies for connection.
I'm trained in Neurodiverse Couples Counseling through AANE (Autism and Asperger Network), which I integrate into my work to better support neurodivergent partners and relationships. This specialized training informs how I help couples navigate the unique dynamics of neurodiverse partnerships.
Neurodiversity-Affirming
You're not broken, and neither is your partner. Therapy should validate your experiences and work with your neurology, not against it.
Practical and Direct
I provide concrete tools and strategies you can actually use, not vague advice about "just communicating better."
No Masking Required
Therapy is a space where you can show up as your authentic self without performing or pretending to be someone you're not.
Learn more about the therapeutic approaches I use in my work with couples.
Online Therapy for Neurodiverse Couples in Texas
You don't have to find someone local who "gets it." All sessions are conducted virtually through secure, HIPAA-compliant video conferencing, which means you can access specialized neurodiverse couples counseling from anywhere in Texas.
Online therapy offers particular advantages for neurodivergent individuals and couples. You can attend sessions from your own comfortable, controlled environment without the sensory overwhelm of traveling to an office. You have control over lighting, sound, and other environmental factors that affect your ability to be present and engaged in therapy.
Sessions are available during the week and on weekends to accommodate different schedules and energy patterns. Learn more about how online therapy works and what to expect.
Learn More
Learn about my approach to neurodiverse couples counseling
Explore individual and couples counseling options
Understand the virtual therapy process
Find answers to common questions
You Deserve Support That Gets You
Schedule a free consultation to talk about your relationship, ask questions, and see if neurodiverse couples counseling is the right fit for you.
Schedule Your Free ConsultationSchedule a Counseling Session or Ask a Question
All sessions are held virtually and are available to adults and couples living anywhere in Texas. Not located in Texas? Feel free to reach out — I’m happy to connect you with referrals in your area.
Meet the Team
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Amiti Grozdon
LPC-A (Licensed Professional Counselor - Associate)