Where I Learned This Feeling Wasn't Safe
Explore the connections between current emotional blocks and past experiences of disapproval or rejection
Understanding Emotional Safety
Many of our current emotional blocks stem from early experiences where we learned certain feelings were "dangerous" - leading to rejection, criticism, or loss of love. This worksheet helps you identify these patterns and begin healing them.
Identify Your Emotional Blocks
Click on emotions that feel difficult or unsafe for you to express:
😤 Anger & Frustration
Difficulty expressing displeasure, setting boundaries, or showing irritation
When Did You Learn Anger Wasn't Safe?
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😢 Sadness & Vulnerability
Difficulty crying, showing hurt, or expressing emotional pain
Key Memory Exploration
😊 Joy & Excitement
Difficulty expressing happiness, celebrating, or showing enthusiasm
🔗 Making Connections
Think about messages you received about expressing joy:
😰 Fear & Anxiety
Difficulty admitting when you're scared or asking for support
How safe did it feel to show fear as a child?
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Never safe
Always safe
💕 Love & Affection
Difficulty expressing care, saying "I love you," or showing tenderness
💡 Family Patterns
Reflect on how love was expressed (or not expressed) in your family:
Rewriting Your Emotional Story
Old Belief About Emotions
New, Compassionate Truth
Integration & Healing
Emotional Safety Action Plan
Choose practices to help you create emotional safety:
Practice self-compassion when difficult emotions arise
Share one "unsafe" emotion with a trusted person this week
Notice when I'm suppressing emotions and gently allow them
Write a letter to my younger self about emotional safety
Practice expressing emotions in small, safe ways daily
Remind myself: "All feelings are valid and temporary"