π¬ Communication Styles Assessment π
Discover How You and Your Partner Connect, Clash, and Can Grow Together
Understanding Communication Styles
Every person has a unique communication fingerprint.
This assessment helps you and your partner identify your primary communication styles, understand how they interact, and develop strategies for better connection.
The Four Primary Communication Styles
β’ Values efficiency and clarity
β’ Can seem blunt or harsh
β’ Focuses on facts and results
β’ "Let's cut to the chase"
β’ Uses stories and examples
β’ Can seem dramatic or unfocused
β’ Values emotional connection
β’ "Let me tell you how this felt"
β’ Asks many questions
β’ Can seem cold or critical
β’ Values accuracy and details
β’ "What's the evidence for this?"
β’ Avoids confrontation
β’ Can seem indirect or passive
β’ Values relationships
β’ "Whatever works for everyone"
Quick Style Assessment
Partner 1 Assessment
1. During a disagreement, I tend to:
2. When making plans, I prefer:
3. My partner knows I'm upset when I:
Communication Style Spectrum
π€ Partner 1
π€ Partner 2
Your Communication Dynamics
How Your Styles Interact
π Strengths
Where your styles complement each other
β οΈ Challenges
Where your styles might clash
π± Growth Areas
Opportunities to bridge differences
Common Scenarios Analysis
Style-Specific Needs
What Each Partner Needs
Partner 1 Needs:
Partner 2 Needs:
Translation Guide
How to "translate" between your styles:
Communication Triggers & Repairs
Identifying Your Triggers
- Direct vs. Supportive: "Too harsh" vs. "Too indirect"
- Expressive vs. Analytical: "Too emotional" vs. "Too cold"
- Fast vs. Slow processors: "Pressuring me" vs. "Avoiding the issue"
- Big picture vs. Details: "Missing the point" vs. "Oversimplifying"
π§ Repair Strategies for Each Style Combination
β’ Direct partner: Soften startup, add appreciation
β’ Supportive partner: Practice being more explicit about needs
β’ Expressive partner: Include facts with feelings
β’ Analytical partner: Acknowledge emotions before problem-solving
Building Your Communication Bridge
Adaptability Strategies
How I Can Adapt to My Partner's Style:
What I Need My Partner to Know About My Style:
π Your Custom Communication Agreement
Quick Reference Guide
Your Communication Snapshot
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Partner 1 Primary Style:
Best ways to communicate with me:
Partner 2 Primary Style:
Best ways to communicate with me:
Growth Exercises
Weekly Practice
π― This Week's Communication Goal:
Style Stretch Challenges:
β’ Add one feeling word per conversation
β’ Ask before giving advice
β’ Practice active listening without interrupting
β’ State one clear need daily
β’ Practice saying no without over-explaining
β’ Share disagreement respectfully
β’ Summarize in three points
β’ Include one fact with feelings
β’ Practice brief check-ins
β’ Share feelings before facts
β’ Respond to emotion first
β’ Practice "good enough" decisions