Do You and Your Partner Share the Same Definition of Cheating? Quiz

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Why Cheating Means Different Things to Different People

For some, cheating is only physical. For others, it includes emotional closeness, online flirting, or even certain social media habits. These differences aren’t always obvious until they cause hurt—which is why talking about them matters.

The Gray Areas That Create Confusion

Is texting an old flame cheating? What about secret Snapchat messages, or sharing personal struggles with someone outside the relationship? Gray areas like these often create tension, especially if partners assume they’re on the same page without checking in.

What This Quiz Can Help You Discover

This quiz helps you and your partner explore whether your definitions line up—or if unspoken differences might be putting your relationship at risk. It’s not about blame, but about awareness. Knowing where you stand gives you a starting point for deeper conversation.

How Counseling Can Support These Conversations

At Sagebrush Counseling, I specialize in couples counseling and infidelity recovery. Therapy offers a safe space to talk through your boundaries, rebuild trust, and navigate tough conversations around betrayal, online behavior, and intimacy. Getting clear on what cheating means to both of you is one of the first steps to protecting your relationship.

Do You and Your Partner Share the Same Definition of Cheating?

Do You and Your Partner Share the Same Definition of Cheating?

Discover where your boundaries align and where important conversations are needed

Note: This quiz explores different perspectives on relationship boundaries and infidelity. Everyone has different comfort levels and definitions based on their values, experiences, and relationship agreements. There are no "right" or "wrong" answers—only opportunities for honest communication with your partner.
How to use this quiz: Consider each scenario and select your honest response. After completing the quiz, share your results with your partner and encourage them to take it too. The goal is to spark important conversations about boundaries and expectations in your relationship.
Question 1 of 15
1
Your partner regularly texts with an attractive coworker about work topics, but also shares personal jokes and asks about each other's day.
2
Your partner has a close friendship with an ex that includes occasional one-on-one coffee dates and regular phone calls.
3
Your partner goes out for drinks alone with an attractive friend and doesn't mention it until you ask about their evening.
4
Your partner shares intimate details about your relationship problems with a close friend of the opposite sex.
5
Your partner actively likes and comments flirtatious emojis on someone's social media posts, and that person responds similarly.
6
Your partner has a "work spouse"—someone they're very close with, share meals with, and text frequently, but it's never romantic.
7
Your partner exchanges a brief, friendly kiss on the cheek with someone they find attractive at a social gathering.
8
Your partner uses dating apps or websites "just to see what's out there" or "for validation" but doesn't meet anyone.
9
Your partner regularly watches pornography without involving you or discussing it with you.
10
Your partner engages in sexually explicit conversations or exchanges photos with someone online, but they never meet in person.
11
Your partner gets a massage from an attractive massage therapist and enjoys the physical relaxation and brief conversation.
12
Your partner has intense emotional conversations and shares feelings they don't share with you with someone they're attracted to.
13
Your partner dances closely with someone attractive at a party or club, including some physical contact like hands on waist/shoulders.
14
Your partner maintains profiles on social media that don't mention your relationship and responds to flirtatious messages from others.
15
Your partner goes to a strip club with friends for a bachelor/bachelorette party and gets a lap dance.
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Conversation Starters for Your Partner

    Building Healthy Relationship Boundaries Together

    Couples Communication Counseling

    • Clarifying boundaries and expectations together
    • Learning to discuss sensitive topics openly
    • Building mutual understanding and respect
    • Creating relationship agreements that work for both
    • Improving trust and emotional safety
    • Developing conflict resolution skills

    Individual Relationship Clarity

    • Understanding your own values and boundaries
    • Building confidence in relationship conversations
    • Learning to express needs clearly and kindly
    • Working through insecurities or past experiences
    • Developing healthy communication skills
    • Creating personal relationship standards

    Clear boundaries and open communication are essential for healthy relationships. Professional support can help you and your partner navigate these important conversations and build stronger trust and understanding together.

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