Do You Have Relationship Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (ROCD)? Quiz

Oct 26

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Do You Have Relationship Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (ROCD)?

⚠️ Critical Professional Disclaimer: This quiz is designed for educational and self-awareness purposes ONLY. It is NOT a diagnostic tool and cannot diagnose Relationship OCD or any mental health condition.

Important Information About ROCD:

ROCD is a clinical diagnosis that can only be made by a qualified mental health professional, preferably one who specializes in OCD and anxiety disorders.
ROCD is a subtype of OCD (Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder) characterized by intrusive, unwanted doubts about one's relationship or partner, accompanied by compulsive behaviors aimed at reducing anxiety. OCD is recognized in the DSM-5 (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition) under Obsessive-Compulsive and Related Disorders. Learn more at the American Psychiatric Association.
Normal relationship doubts are different from ROCD. Everyone experiences occasional doubts about their relationship. ROCD involves persistent, intrusive, distressing thoughts that significantly interfere with daily functioning and wellbeing.
This quiz cannot distinguish between ROCD and legitimate relationship concerns. Some relationship doubts may indicate actual incompatibility rather than OCD. Professional evaluation is essential to determine the difference.
ROCD requires specialized treatment. If you have ROCD, the most effective treatment is Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy with a therapist who specializes in OCD treatment.

🆘 Crisis Resources: If you're experiencing thoughts of self-harm, severe distress, or a mental health crisis:
• Call or Text 988 - Suicide & Crisis Lifeline (24/7, free, confidential)
• Text "HELLO" to 741741 - Crisis Text Line
• Call 1-800-950-NAMI (6264) - NAMI Helpline (Mon-Fri, 10am-10pm ET)
• Call 911 or go to your nearest emergency room if in immediate danger

If you're experiencing significant distress about your relationship, please consult with a licensed mental health professional for proper evaluation and treatment.

How often do you experience intrusive doubts about whether your partner is "the one" or if you're in the right relationship?

Rarely or never - I feel generally secure in my relationship Occasionally - normal doubts during stressful times Frequently - several times a week these thoughts intrude Constantly - these doubts consume me daily or multiple times per day

Do you feel compelled to repeatedly analyze your feelings for your partner to determine if you love them "enough"?

No - I trust my feelings without constant checking Sometimes - I check in with my feelings occasionally Often - I regularly analyze whether I feel "the right way" Constantly - I'm always testing and analyzing my feelings

How distressing are these doubts about your relationship?

Not distressing - any doubts I have feel manageable and normal Mildly distressing - they bother me but don't significantly impact my life Very distressing - they cause significant anxiety and upset Extremely distressing - they're agonizing and interfere with daily life

Do you compulsively compare your partner or relationship to others (real, fictional, or past relationships)?

Rarely - I'm generally content without constant comparison Sometimes - occasional comparisons that don't consume me Frequently - I often compare my partner/relationship to others Constantly - I'm always comparing and can't stop myself

How often do you seek reassurance from others about whether your relationship is right?

Rarely - I feel confident without needing external validation Occasionally - I ask friends for input during tough times Frequently - I regularly seek reassurance from multiple people Constantly - I need repeated reassurance that never fully satisfies

Do you obsessively focus on perceived flaws in your partner's appearance, personality, or behavior?

No - I accept my partner as they are with normal acceptance of imperfections Sometimes - I notice flaws but they don't preoccupy me Often - I fixate on specific flaws and struggle to see past them Constantly - I obsessively focus on flaws and can't stop analyzing them

Do you perform "tests" to check if your feelings are "real" (like imagining breaking up to see how you feel)?

No - I don't feel the need to test my feelings Rarely - I've done this once or twice but it's not a pattern Regularly - I frequently test my feelings in various ways Constantly - I'm always testing and never feel satisfied with the results

How much do these relationship doubts interfere with your ability to enjoy time with your partner?

Not at all - I can be present and enjoy our time together Slightly - occasional intrusive thoughts but generally present Significantly - doubts often prevent me from being fully present Severely - I can't enjoy time together because of constant doubts

Do you compulsively research relationship compatibility, "signs you're with the wrong person," or similar topics online?

No - I don't feel compelled to research these topics Occasionally - I've looked up relationship advice a few times Frequently - I regularly spend time researching relationship doubts Compulsively - I spend hours researching and can't stop

How much anxiety do you experience when you can't resolve your relationship doubts?

Minimal - I can sit with uncertainty relatively comfortably Moderate - uncertainty creates some discomfort High - unresolved doubts create significant anxiety Extreme - I experience panic or overwhelming distress

Do you avoid situations that might trigger relationship doubts (like attending weddings, seeing happy couples, watching romantic content)?

No - I don't avoid these situations Rarely - I might occasionally avoid something uncomfortable Often - I regularly avoid situations that trigger doubts Constantly - avoidance significantly limits my activities

How much do you ruminate about whether you're attracted to your partner in the "right way"?

Not at all - I feel secure in my attraction Occasionally - I've questioned this but it doesn't consume me Frequently - I often worry about my level or type of attraction Constantly - I obsessively analyze every aspect of my attraction

Do these relationship doubts feel ego-dystonic (unwanted, intrusive, and inconsistent with your true desires)?

No - my doubts feel like genuine concerns I want to explore Somewhat - I'm not sure if these doubts reflect my true feelings Often - these thoughts feel intrusive and unwanted Always - I hate these thoughts and they feel foreign to who I am

Have you noticed that reassurance or "certainty" about your relationship only provides temporary relief?

N/A - I don't seek reassurance about my relationship No - when I get reassurance or clarity, it helps long-term Yes - relief lasts a while but doubts eventually return Yes - relief is fleeting and I need constant reassurance

Do you mentally review past interactions or moments to "prove" whether you love your partner?

No - I don't feel the need to prove my feelings Occasionally - I might reflect on our relationship sometimes Frequently - I regularly review past moments as evidence Constantly - I compulsively review memories to check my feelings

How much do these doubts affect your mood and mental health overall?

Not at all - my mood and mental health are stable Slightly - minor impact but manageable Significantly - causing depression, anxiety, or emotional distress Severely - devastating impact on my mental health and wellbeing

Do you experience physical symptoms of anxiety (rapid heartbeat, nausea, tension) when doubts arise?

No - I don't experience physical anxiety symptoms Occasionally - mild physical symptoms sometimes Frequently - noticeable physical anxiety symptoms Constantly - severe physical symptoms that are debilitating

Have you had similar obsessive doubt patterns about other major life decisions (not just relationships)?

No - this is specific to my current relationship Rarely - maybe once or twice in other areas Sometimes - I've had similar patterns in a few other areas Often - I have a history of obsessive doubting in multiple areas

How much time per day do you spend focused on these relationship doubts and related behaviors?

Less than 30 minutes - minimal time focused on doubts 30 minutes to 1 hour - some daily preoccupation 1-3 hours - significant daily time consumed by doubts More than 3 hours - doubts dominate most of my day

Do you recognize that your doubts and checking behaviors are excessive or irrational?

N/A - I don't have excessive doubts or checking behaviors No - my doubts feel completely reasonable and justified Sometimes - I fluctuate between seeing them as valid or excessive Yes - I know they're excessive but can't control them

Your ROCD Assessment Results

Understanding ROCD Treatment

ERP Therapy for ROCD

Gold standard treatment for OCD and its subtypes
Gradually face relationship doubts without compulsions
Learn to tolerate uncertainty in relationships
Break the cycle of obsessions and compulsions
Reduce anxiety through exposure, not reassurance
Develop healthy relationship perspective
Work with OCD-specialized therapist for best outcomes

Additional ROCD Support

Cognitive therapy to challenge OCD thought patterns
Mindfulness to observe thoughts without engagement
Medication evaluation if symptoms are severe
Education about OCD to understand the disorder
Support for partner to understand ROCD dynamics
Relapse prevention and long-term management
Intensive treatment programs for severe cases

If you're experiencing symptoms consistent with ROCD, know that this is a treatable condition. Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy with an OCD specialist can help you break free from the cycle of doubt and compulsion, allowing you to experience your relationship more fully. Recovery is possible, and specialized treatment makes a significant difference.

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