Is Polyamory Right for Me? Quiz

Curious if polyamory might be a fit for your relationship style? This quick quiz is designed to help you explore your values, boundaries, and desires. While no quiz can give you all the answers, it can offer insight into whether opening your relationship could align with your needs—and what questions to ask next.

Is Polyamory Right for Me?

Discover if ethical non-monogamy aligns with your personality, values, and relationship goals through this comprehensive assessment.

Disclaimer: This quiz is for educational and self-reflection purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional counseling or therapy. Consider speaking with a qualified relationship counselor to explore your feelings and options in depth.

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1

How do you typically react when your partner talks positively about other people they find attractive?

I feel curious and might even enjoy hearing about it - it doesn't threaten me I feel a little uncomfortable but can discuss it rationally I feel quite jealous and prefer they keep those thoughts to themselves I feel angry or betrayed - they shouldn't be thinking about others that way

2

How important is it to you to be your partner's "one and only" romantic/sexual focus?

Not important - I believe love multiplies rather than divides Somewhat important, but I could adapt to sharing their attention Very important - I want to feel special and prioritized Extremely important - exclusivity is fundamental to my idea of love

3

How do you handle scheduling and time management in your current relationships and commitments?

I'm excellent at juggling multiple commitments and prioritizing different relationships I manage reasonably well but sometimes struggle with competing demands I often feel overwhelmed by multiple commitments and prefer simpler schedules I struggle significantly with time management and prefer to focus on one thing at a time

4

When conflicts arise in relationships, how do you typically respond?

I address issues directly and work collaboratively toward solutions I try to communicate well but sometimes avoid difficult conversations I often struggle with confrontation and may withdraw or get defensive I tend to avoid conflict entirely or respond with anger

5

How do you feel about the idea of your partner having deep emotional connections with other people?

I think it's beautiful - more love in their life means more happiness overall I could accept it but would need reassurance about our relationship's importance I would find it very challenging and worry about being replaced I couldn't accept it - deep emotional connections should be reserved for our relationship

6

How comfortable are you with potentially having multiple romantic/sexual relationships yourself?

Very excited about the possibility - I have a lot of love to give Somewhat interested, though I'd want to take it slowly Uncertain - the idea feels overwhelming or complicated Not interested - I prefer to focus my energy on one person

7

When you imagine your ideal future, what does your relationship structure look like?

A network of loving relationships with multiple people who care about each other A primary relationship with occasional other connections as they develop naturally Mostly traditional but with some flexibility for special circumstances A committed, exclusive partnership focused entirely on each other

8

How do you typically handle jealousy when it arises?

I examine the feeling, communicate about it, and work through it constructively I struggle with it initially but can usually process it with time and support I find it very difficult to manage and it often affects my behavior negatively I become very upset and have trouble functioning until the situation is resolved

9

How important is sexual exclusivity to your sense of relationship security?

Not important - I find security in emotional connection and communication Somewhat important, but I could feel secure without it if other needs are met Very important - sharing sexual intimacy with others would make me feel insecure Absolutely essential - I cannot feel secure without complete sexual exclusivity

10

How well do you communicate your needs, boundaries, and feelings in relationships?

Excellent - I'm clear, direct, and comfortable with difficult conversations Pretty good - I communicate well most of the time with some effort Inconsistent - I sometimes struggle to express what I really need or feel Poor - I often keep things to myself or have trouble articulating my thoughts

11

How do you feel about the practical complexities of managing multiple relationships (schedules, holidays, social events)?

I enjoy the challenge and am good at organizing complex social situations It seems manageable with good communication and planning It sounds stressful and potentially overwhelming It sounds like too much work - I prefer simpler arrangements

12

How do you handle situations where you feel like you're not getting enough attention or time from a partner?

I communicate my needs clearly and work together to find solutions I try to discuss it but sometimes feel unsure about making demands I often feel resentful or needy and struggle to address it constructively I become very upset and may act out or withdraw emotionally

13

What is your primary motivation for considering polyamory?

I believe in the philosophy that love doesn't have to be limited or exclusive I want more variety and connection in my romantic life I'm curious but not entirely sure why it appeals to me I'm mainly considering it because my partner wants it

14

How comfortable are you with the idea that your partner might experience "new relationship energy" (intense excitement) with someone else?

I'd be happy for them and might even feel energized by their excitement I'd feel some jealousy but could work through it with support I'd feel quite threatened and would need a lot of reassurance I couldn't handle it - that energy should be directed toward our relationship

15

How do you typically react to change and uncertainty in your life?

I adapt well and often find change exciting and growth-promoting I manage reasonably well but prefer some stability and predictability I find change stressful and need significant time to adjust I strongly prefer routine and stability - change is very difficult for me

16

How important is it to you that your relationship style is understood and accepted by family and friends?

Not very important - I'm comfortable living according to my own values Somewhat important, but I could handle some disapproval Very important - disapproval from loved ones would be very difficult Extremely important - I need my family and friends' approval and support

17

How do you feel about the possibility of your partner's other relationships affecting decisions about your shared life (living situations, finances, major choices)?

I'd welcome input from their other partners and see it as enriching our decision-making I could accept some influence but would want clear boundaries I'd be uncomfortable with outside influence on our major decisions Absolutely not - our decisions should be between us alone

18

How well do you think you could handle loving someone who also loves other people?

Very well - I believe their other loves would enhance rather than diminish our connection I think I could learn to handle it with effort and support I would struggle significantly and it would cause me ongoing distress I don't think I could handle it - I need to feel like their primary focus

19

What role does sexual variety play in your ideal relationship life?

Very important - I believe sexual exploration with multiple partners enhances intimacy Somewhat important - I'm curious about experiences with different people Not very important - I prefer emotional connection over variety Not important at all - I find sexual fulfillment with one person

20

Overall, how does the idea of polyamory make you feel?

Excited and energized - it feels like a natural fit for who I am Curious and somewhat nervous - interested but with some concerns Uncertain and anxious - more worried than excited about the possibilities Uncomfortable or resistant - it doesn't align with my values or desires

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• Explore your personal values and desires
• Work through jealousy and attachment patterns
• Develop communication and boundary-setting skills
• Process feelings about relationship structures
• Build confidence in your authentic choices

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• Navigate relationship structure decisions together
• Improve communication patterns
• Establish healthy boundaries and agreements
• Work through conflicts about relationship styles
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