Is Porn Affecting Your Relationship? Quiz

Is Porn Affecting Your Relationship?

Assess how pornography use may be impacting your intimate relationship and connection

Professional Disclaimer: This quiz is designed for educational and self-reflection purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Pornography's impact on relationships varies greatly between individuals and couples. If you're experiencing challenges related to porn use, please consider speaking with a qualified therapist or counselor.

Question 1 of 20

1

How often do you use pornography?

Rarely or never

Occasionally (a few times a month or less)

Regularly (several times a week)

Daily or multiple times daily

2

Has your porn use increased over time?

No, it's remained stable or decreased

Slightly increased

Significantly increased

Dramatically increased - I need more to feel satisfied

3

Does porn use interfere with your daily responsibilities?

Never - it doesn't affect my responsibilities

Rarely - occasional minor interference

Sometimes - it's caused me to neglect tasks or be late

Frequently - it regularly impacts work, family, or other duties

4

Are you honest with your partner about your porn use?

Yes, completely honest and open

Mostly honest, though I don't share every detail

Not very honest - I minimize or hide my use

Dishonest - I actively hide it and would deny if asked

5

How has porn affected your sexual attraction to your partner?

No impact - I'm still very attracted to my partner

Minor impact - attraction is mostly the same

Noticeable impact - I find myself less attracted

Significant impact - my attraction has greatly decreased

6

Do you prefer porn over sex with your partner?

No, I clearly prefer sex with my partner

Sometimes - depends on the circumstances

Often - I find myself choosing porn over partnered sex

Yes, I regularly choose porn and avoid sex with my partner

7

Has porn use affected your ability to perform sexually with your partner?

No impact on my sexual function

Occasional difficulties that may be related

Regular difficulties (arousal, maintaining erection, orgasm issues)

Significant dysfunction - I struggle to perform without porn

8

Do you think about porn during sex with your partner?

Rarely or never - I'm present with my partner

Occasionally - fleeting thoughts

Often - I regularly think about or fantasize about porn

Almost always - I need to think about porn to stay aroused

9

Has your partner expressed concerns about your porn use?

No, they've never expressed concern

Once or twice in passing

Yes, multiple times - they're concerned or hurt

Frequently - it's become a major source of conflict

10

Has porn use created unrealistic expectations about sex?

No, I understand porn isn't realistic

Somewhat - I sometimes have unrealistic expectations

Yes - I find real sex disappointing compared to porn

Very much - I expect my partner to act like porn performers

11

How often do you turn down intimacy with your partner to use porn instead?

Never - I don't choose porn over my partner

Rarely - it's happened once or twice

Sometimes - more than I'd like to admit

Frequently - I regularly avoid partnered sex in favor of porn

12

Has porn use reduced your emotional intimacy with your partner?

No, our emotional connection remains strong

Possibly - some distance but I'm not sure if it's related

Yes - I feel less emotionally connected than before

Significantly - porn has created major emotional distance

13

Can you stop using porn if you decide to?

Yes, easily - I have full control

Probably - it would take some willpower

With difficulty - I've tried to stop before and struggled

No, I feel unable to stop despite wanting to

14

Has the type of porn you watch escalated to more extreme content?

No, my preferences have remained consistent

Slightly - some variation but nothing concerning

Yes - I need more intense content to feel aroused

Significantly - I'm disturbed by what I now need to watch

15

Do you feel shame or guilt about your porn use?

No, I don't feel shame about it

Occasionally - minor feelings of guilt

Often - I regularly feel guilty or ashamed

Constantly - significant shame that affects my self-worth

16

Has your sex life with your partner suffered since using porn?

No, our sex life is still satisfying

Slight decline but nothing major

Noticeable decline - less frequent and less satisfying

Significant decline - our sex life has deteriorated greatly

17

Do you use porn as your primary coping mechanism for stress or negative emotions?

No, I have various healthy coping strategies

Sometimes - it's one of several coping methods

Often - it's my go-to when stressed or upset

Almost always - I rely heavily on porn for emotional regulation

18

Has porn use caused trust issues in your relationship?

No, trust hasn't been affected

Minor trust concerns have emerged

Yes - my partner feels betrayed or doesn't trust me fully

Severely - porn has damaged trust significantly

19

Do you feel your porn use is impacting your self-esteem or body image?

No impact on my self-esteem

Minor impact - occasional negative comparisons

Moderate impact - regular negative feelings about myself

Significant impact - serious self-esteem and body image issues

20

Overall, how would you rate porn's impact on your relationship?

No negative impact - relationship is healthy

Minor concerns but manageable

Moderate negative impact - causing relationship problems

Severe negative impact - threatening our relationship

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Professional Support for Porn-Related Issues

Whether you're dealing with compulsive porn use or its impact on your relationship, professional counseling can provide the support and strategies you need for positive change.

Individual Therapy Can Help With:

• Understanding compulsive behaviors and triggers
• Developing healthier coping mechanisms
• Addressing shame and guilt
• Processing underlying emotional issues
• Building impulse control and self-regulation
• Treating co-occurring conditions (anxiety, depression)
• Creating sustainable behavior change plans

Couples Counseling Can Address:

• Rebuilding trust after betrayal or dishonesty
• Improving sexual intimacy and connection
• Setting healthy boundaries as a couple
• Enhancing communication about difficult topics
• Understanding each partner's perspective
• Healing emotional wounds from porn-related issues
• Strengthening your relationship overall

Many individuals and couples successfully navigate porn-related challenges with professional support. A trained therapist can provide a judgment-free space to address these issues and help you build the relationship and intimate life you want.

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