Understanding Self-Care vs. Selfish Behavior
A Therapeutic Worksheet for Healthy Boundaries
Part 1: Defining the Difference
Many people struggle to distinguish between healthy self-care and selfish behavior. Complete the following to explore your understanding and develop clarity around this important distinction.
1. In your own words, how would you define "self-care"?
2. How would you define "selfish behavior"?
3. What are the key differences between these two concepts?
Part 2: Identifying Self-Care Activities
Check all the activities below that you consider to be healthy self-care practices:
Taking time for regular exercise
Saying "no" to overcommitment
Getting adequate sleep
Eating nutritious meals
Taking breaks during work
Spending time with supportive friends
Engaging in hobbies you enjoy
Setting healthy boundaries
Seeking therapy or counseling
Taking time for relaxation
Practicing mindfulness or meditation
Asking for help when needed
Part 3: Scenario Analysis
For each scenario below, indicate whether you believe it represents self-care (SC) or selfish behavior (SB):
| Scenario | SC | SB |
|---|---|---|
| Declining a social invitation because you need rest after a difficult week | ||
| Canceling plans last minute because something more fun came up | ||
| Taking a mental health day from work when feeling overwhelmed | ||
| Refusing to help a friend move because you don't feel like it | ||
| Setting a boundary about not discussing work during family dinner | ||
| Spending money on a massage instead of contributing to a group gift |
Part 4: Personal Reflection
4. Describe a recent situation where you practiced healthy self-care:
5. Describe a time when you may have acted selfishly instead of practicing self-care:
6. What makes it difficult for you to practice self-care without feeling guilty?
Part 5: Self-Assessment Scale
Rate yourself on the following statements using the scale below:
Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Agree
Strongly Agree
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Part 6: Action Planning
7. What is one self-care practice you would like to implement or improve this week?
8. What barriers might prevent you from practicing this self-care, and how can you overcome them?
9. How will you remind yourself that self-care is not selfish?
Key Takeaway
Remember: Self-care involves taking care of your physical, emotional, and mental needs in ways that enable you to be your best self for both you and others. Selfish behavior prioritizes personal desires without consideration for others' needs or wellbeing. Healthy self-care actually enhances your ability to care for others.