What's Your ADHD Love Language? Quiz

When you have ADHD, love often looks a little different. You might forget an anniversary but drop everything to help your partner when they’re stressed. You might crave closeness yet struggle to stay present when your mind races. This quiz helps you explore how ADHD shapes your unique “love language” and how you can communicate affection in ways that work for both you and your partner.

Why ADHD Impacts How You Give and Receive Love

ADHD affects emotional regulation, attention, and reward processing — all of which influence how you connect. You may love intensely and feel deeply, but sustaining that energy or remembering small daily gestures can be a challenge. Understanding your ADHD love language helps you build compassion for yourself and create more balanced, secure relationships.

The Quiz: Discover Your ADHD Love Language

This short quiz will help you identify how ADHD influences the way you show love, seek reassurance, and connect. You’ll learn whether you lean toward:

• Acts of Service (structure and support feel like love)

• Words of Affirmation (encouragement helps regulate motivation)

• Quality Time (presence helps calm your mind)

• Physical Touch (soothing sensory connection)

• Gifts (visual reminders of love and care)

Your results will give you insights to bring to your next conversation or therapy session—so you can love with more intention and understanding.

Why Understanding Your ADHD Love Language Matters

• It builds empathy between you and your partner.

• It reduces guilt around forgetfulness or distraction.

• It helps both partners recognize effort, even when it looks unconventional.

• It brings playfulness, humor, and warmth back into your relationship.

You don’t have to fit into a “typical” love language for your relationship to thrive—ADHD love just has its own rhythm.

The Benefits of ADHD-Affirming Couples Therapy

ADHD couples therapy focuses on understanding, not blame. You’ll learn how to communicate needs clearly, rebuild trust after frustration, and develop systems that make connection easier. Many couples find that therapy helps them turn constant misunderstandings into moments of teamwork and laughter again.

Ready to Strengthen Your Relationship?

ADHD doesn’t have to mean chaos or confusion in love. With the right tools, you can create a relationship that feels balanced, connected, and genuinely understood.

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What's Your ADHD Love Language?

Disclaimer: This quiz explores how ADHD may influence the way you express and receive love in relationships. It is designed for self-reflection and understanding, not as a diagnostic tool. Understanding your unique love language can help improve communication and connection in your relationships.

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When someone shows they care about you, what makes you feel most loved?

Hearing words of encouragement, appreciation, or reassurance

Spending focused, undivided attention time together

Having someone help with tasks or responsibilities

Physical affection like hugs, hand-holding, or cuddles

2

How do you naturally show someone you love them?

Telling them how much they mean to me with sincere words

Giving thoughtful gifts or surprises that remind me of them

Doing things to make their life easier or help them out

Physical closeness and affectionate touch

3

When you're feeling overwhelmed by ADHD symptoms, what helps you feel supported?

Someone reminding me I'm doing okay and validating my struggles

Someone sitting with me and being present without judgment

Someone helping with tasks that feel impossible in the moment

Physical comfort like a hug or gentle touch

4

What makes you feel most understood in a relationship?

When someone verbalizes that they see and appreciate me

When someone makes time for me despite my scattered schedule

When someone anticipates my needs and helps without being asked

When someone gives me something showing they know what I like

5

When you hyperfocus on a project or interest, how do you want your partner to respond?

Encourage my passion and tell me they're proud of me

Show genuine interest and spend time learning about it with me

Take care of things I'm neglecting so I can focus

Surprise me with tools or items related to my interest

6

What hurts your feelings the most in a relationship?

Criticism or harsh words, especially about my ADHD traits

Being ignored or feeling like I'm not a priority

When someone doesn't help when I'm clearly struggling

Lack of physical affection or feeling pushed away

7

How do you prefer to receive feedback or constructive criticism?

Gently and kindly, with positive reinforcement too

In a calm conversation where we have time to discuss it

With suggestions and offers to help me improve

While being physically close so I feel safe and connected

8

When you forget something important (due to ADHD), what response helps you most?

Understanding words that it's okay and I'm still valued

Taking time to problem-solve together without blame

Help setting up systems or reminders to prevent it again

A reassuring hug that shows they're not upset with me

9

What makes you feel most secure in a relationship?

Regular verbal affirmations of love and commitment

Consistent quality time and reliable presence

Actions that demonstrate commitment and support

Thoughtful gestures that show they're thinking of me

10

How do you like to celebrate achievements (big or small)?

Hearing enthusiastic praise and acknowledgment

Doing something special together to mark the occasion

Receiving a meaningful gift or token of celebration

Physical celebration like high-fives, hugs, or victory dances

11

When experiencing rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD), what helps you recover?

Reassuring words that counter the negative thoughts

Patient presence while I process my emotions

Someone taking action to help resolve the situation

Physical comfort and grounding through touch

12

What type of surprise would make you feel most loved?

A heartfelt letter or unexpected compliment

Planned surprise date or activity together

Coming home to find chores done or a problem solved

An unexpected gift that shows they know me well

13

How do you best connect with your partner during difficult times?

Talking through feelings and receiving emotional support

Just being together, even in silence

Having them take on extra responsibilities for me

Physical closeness and comfort

14

What daily habit from a partner would make you feel most loved?

Saying "I love you" or giving daily compliments

Setting aside dedicated time for us each day

Doing small helpful things without being asked

Morning hug, goodbye kiss, or regular affection

15

When you're excited about something (ADHD enthusiasm!), how do you want others to react?

Match my enthusiasm verbally and encourage my passion

Spend time engaging with my interest alongside me

Help me pursue it by removing obstacles

Get me something related to this new interest

16

What makes you feel most appreciated for who you are (ADHD and all)?

Hearing that my unique qualities are valued and loved

Someone choosing to spend their time with me consistently

Actions showing they accommodate my needs

Gifts chosen specifically with my preferences in mind

17

How do you prefer to handle sensory overload in a relationship?

Partner verbally checking in and validating my needs

Quiet time together in a calm environment

Partner creating a calm space or removing stressors

Gentle, grounding physical touch (if I'm comfortable with touch)

18

What helps you feel emotionally regulated in your relationship?

Verbal reassurance and calm, patient communication

Predictable routines and consistent time together

Practical support with daily tasks and responsibilities

Physical affection that grounds and centers me

19

When you're time-blind and lose track of hours, what helps you feel loved?

Understanding and patience without criticism

Flexibility and understanding about time commitments

Gentle reminders and help staying on schedule

Tools or systems to help me manage time better

20

Overall, what matters most to you in feeling loved and understood?

Verbal affirmation and emotional validation

Quality time and undivided attention

Practical support and helpful actions

Thoughtful gifts and tangible reminders of love

Discover Your Love Language

Getting the Help You Need

Individual Therapy

• ADHD-focused counseling and strategies
• Understanding ADHD in relationships
• Managing rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD)
• Executive function skill development
• Emotional regulation techniques
• Building self-esteem and confidence
• Coping strategies for daily life

Couples Therapy

• Understanding ADHD's impact on relationships
• Improving communication patterns
• Developing ADHD-friendly systems together
• Building empathy and understanding
• Managing conflict with ADHD in mind
• Strengthening emotional connection
• Creating sustainable relationship routines

Understanding your ADHD love language can transform your relationships. Whether you need individual support to manage ADHD symptoms or couples therapy to improve relationship dynamics, professional guidance can help you build stronger, more fulfilling connections.

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