Our Shared Neurodivergent
Strengths & Differences
A worksheet for partners to explore how your neurodivergent minds complement, overlap, and sometimes collide.
Coming Into This Together
This worksheet is for both of you. When two neurodivergent people are in a relationship, there's a unique kind of understanding that's possible, and unique challenges, too. You're not here to compare who has it harder. You're here to see each other more clearly.
Why a "both neurodivergent" worksheet matters
Our Neurodivergent Profiles
Let's start by mapping who you each are. Fill in your own column (no peeking until you're both done).
Our Shared Strengths
Being in a neurodivergent partnership comes with incredible gifts. Tap every strength you recognize in your relationship. The more the better.
Where We Differ
Even with shared neurodivergence, you're still two different people. These differences aren't problems; they're information. Tap each card to explore how to honor them.
Mapping Our Sensory Worlds
Your sensory needs might overlap beautifully, or clash completely. Let's explore both.
Our sound sweet spot:
What works for us with touch:
Our ideal shared space looks like:
How we sync our energy:
How We Talk to Each Other
When two neurodivergent people communicate, there can be incredible depth, and also some spectacular miscommunications. Let's map what works.
Communication tools that work for us
Where We Complement Each Other
Some of your differences aren't friction; they're a perfect fit. One partner's strength fills in where the other struggles. That's not codependency; that's teamwork.
Our complementary strengths
The power of a neurodivergent partnership
What We Want to Build
You've explored your shared world. Now let's look forward. What do you want your relationship to feel like, knowing everything you know about each other?
Rate together
We feel safe being our full neurodivergent selves with each other
We celebrate each other's differences instead of trying to change them
Our home is designed around both of our needs
We can talk about our neurodivergence without shame
Our commitments to each other
A note for our next session
Two Brilliant Minds, One Beautiful Team
Your relationship doesn't look like anyone else's, and it's not supposed to. The way you've built your world together, with all its quirks and workarounds and inside jokes, is something worth protecting. Keep being curious about each other.