Supporting Your Autistic Partner Through Social Events
Social Event Survival Plan
Pre-event planning, during-event support, and post-event recovery strategies
π― Why This Planning Matters
Social events can be overwhelming for autistic individuals due to sensory overload, unpredictable social demands, and energy depletion. With proper planning, support, and recovery strategies, couples can navigate social situations successfully while honoring everyone's needs.
Event Details & Information Gathering
π Basic Event Information
Environmental Information Needed
What additional details about the environment would be helpful to know in advance?
Pre-Event Planning & Preparation
β οΈ Potential Triggers to Watch For
What to Bring
Conversation Prep
During-Event Support Strategies
π Check-In System
- Agree on subtle signals for "I'm okay" vs "I need support"
- Set regular check-in times (every 30-60 minutes)
- Use text messages for discrete communication
- Have code words for different needs
π Creating Safe Spaces
- Identify quiet areas for breaks
- Find less crowded spots to retreat to
- Use the car as a quiet zone if needed
- Position near exits for easy departure
π‘οΈ Social Buffering
- Partner stays nearby during conversations
- Help redirect overwhelming interactions
- Provide conversation bridges when needed
- Run interference with particularly draining people
β° Time Management
- Arrive after the initial rush
- Plan departure time in advance
- Take regular sensory breaks
- Leave before getting completely overwhelmed
Our Specific Support Plan
Based on your knowledge of each other, what specific support strategies will work best for this event?
Event Timeline & Schedule
β° Our Event Schedule
Before Leaving
Arrival Plan
During Event
Departure Plan
Emergency & Exit Strategies
π¨ When Things Don't Go as Planned
Exit Strategy & Communication
How will you handle early departure if needed? What will you say to hosts?
Post-Event Recovery & Debrief
π Recovery Planning
What Went Well?
Celebrate the successes and strategies that worked effectively.
What Was Challenging?
Identify difficulties without judgment - this is learning information for next time.
What Would We Do Differently?
Use this experience to improve future event planning and support.
Future Event Considerations
How will this experience inform your approach to similar future events?
π Remember
Every social event is a learning opportunity. Some will go smoothly, others will be more challenging. The goal isn't perfectionβit's supporting each other while honoring both partners' needs and building skills for future social situations.