Sexual Values Quiz for Couples

Sexual Values Quiz: What Do You Really Want From Intimacy?

A therapeutic tool for couples to explore and discuss intimate values together

Instructions for Couples

  1. Take separately first: Each partner should complete this quiz individually without discussing answers.
  2. Be honest: Choose answers that truly reflect your values, not what you think your partner wants to hear.
  3. No right or wrong answers: Every person has different values, and that's completely normal.
  4. Compare results: After both complete the quiz, share your top values and use the discussion prompts.
  5. Focus on understanding: The goal is to understand each other better, not to judge or change each other.

Understanding Sexual Values

Emotional Connection

Feeling deeply bonded, understood, and emotionally close during intimate moments.

Trust & Safety

Feeling completely secure, respected, and free from judgment in intimate situations.

Communication & Expression

Open dialogue about desires, boundaries, and feelings related to intimacy.

Playfulness & Fun

Bringing lightness, humor, and joy into intimate experiences.

Meaningful Connection

Experiencing intimacy as something significant, purposeful, and deeply connecting.

Growth & Exploration

Continuously learning about yourself and your partner through intimate experiences.

Sensory & Physical Pleasure

Focusing on physical sensations, pleasure, and the body's responses.

Freedom & Autonomy

Maintaining personal choice and independence within the intimate relationship.

Intimacy & Vulnerability

Sharing your deepest self and being completely open with your partner.

Adventure & Novelty

Seeking new experiences and keeping intimacy fresh and exciting.

Passion & Intensity

Experiencing strong emotions, desire, and powerful physical connection.

Frequency & Availability

Having intimacy be a regular, consistent part of your relationship.

Quiz Questions

Emotional Connection

When you think about the most fulfilling intimate moments, what matters most?

Trust & Safety

What creates the best environment for intimacy?

Communication & Expression

How important is talking about intimacy and desires?

Playfulness & Fun

What role should lightness and humor play in intimacy?

Meaningful Connection

How do you view the deeper meaning of intimacy?

Growth & Exploration

How important is learning and discovering new things about intimacy?

Sensory & Physical Pleasure

How important are physical sensations and pleasure in intimacy?

Freedom & Autonomy

How important is maintaining your individual identity in intimacy?

Intimacy & Vulnerability

What does being vulnerable mean to you in intimate moments?

Adventure & Novelty

How do you feel about trying new things in your intimate life?

Passion & Intensity

What role does passion and intensity play in your ideal intimate relationship?

Frequency & Availability

How important is having regular, consistent intimacy?

Your Sexual Values Results

Your Top Sexual Values:

Discussion Prompts for Couples:

Personal Reflection & Partner Comparison

My Reflections

Partner's Top Values

Similarities & Differences

Next Steps for Your Relationship

  • Schedule a follow-up conversation to discuss insights from this quiz
  • Identify one shared value you both want to strengthen in your relationship
  • Discuss one difference with curiosity rather than judgment
  • Consider bringing these results to your next therapy session for deeper exploration
  • Plan one specific action that honors both of your top values
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